Arrangements to enjoyment

From our childhood to old age we are constantly arranging something or another with an objective to make life more comfortable or enjoyable.Irony of this situation is that in the process of arrangement we lose our balance in life and the stage of enjoyment is always postponed repeatedly rendering us to live in humiliating and uncertain situation for prolonged time.

Initially everybody tries to be secure and earning is essential part of journey for creation of wealth but at certain stage many people whose living hood is secured get crazy for respect and recognition which they wish to buy but respect can not be bought and this lead them to follow unfair means. They spend money and time too to attain respect of the society but instead of respect they create some sort of commercial brand value which again may be useful for their business but recognition of hearts requires giving something without any expectation and very few person can dare to this. Most people having such hunger for recognition try every way to get noticed which in reality is sheer falsehood.funny part of this process is that more they are     

noticed more they are found to be running after it. On one hand they feel proud,on other hand they become slave of either some individual, thing, or some specific situation which essentially changes with passage of time not necessarily up to or with their expectations. The journey of arranging recognition originally sounded well suddenly puts them to no where and such people starts feeling vacuum and fair amount of distraction. Stunning fact of this aspect of life is more true about most learned, educated and people who are well to do. Such people always look after real friends but rarely it happens as they are sitting on heap of ego which prevents them to come down and share their real inner self with any one. These people then feel stuck up in

one way traffic with only option to move ahead with same mistake of only arranging and not managing.People known to them have mercy on them but they are even unable to feel all this. So what can be the lesson ? Can't we say while arranging, We should also keep managing and enjoy life bestowed upon us.

Thanks
Ashok Madrecha

हृदय से संवाद (Communication of the Heart)

आकाश और जमीन मिलते नहीं फिर भी क्षितिज के अस्तित्व को माना जाता है।  दिल की अतुल गहराईयों में होती अविराम हलचल भला किसको बेचैन नहीं करती , परन्तु यह सब सत्य का अहसास देता हे। मंजिल का मिलना तो शायद सबको ख़ुशी देता होगा , इन्तजार में भी खुश होना सीखना चाहिए।  समाधान सभी को नसीब नहीं होता है , यहाँ तो बस चलना होता हे , अविराम , निरंतर …।

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इंसान की विडम्बनाएं उसे सोचने की सही शक्ति नहीं दे पाती और वो कुछ भी पाने की कामनाये करता है।  दुखी होता है , जलता हे और यदि वह कुछ पाकर भी अचानक ऐसा लगने लगता हे जैसे यह सब तो उसने चाह कर गलती कर दी , समय नष्ट किया। बस यही पर समझने की जरुरत हे की हमारे लक्ष्य कही लघु तो नहीं ? नहीं तो अपनी ऊर्जा का व्यर्थ होना निश्चित हे और अपने अस्तित्व की सार्थकता प्राप्त होना तो दूर उसे महसूस करना भी मुश्किल हो जायेगा।
 ---- अशोक मादरेचा

All these are thoughts and communication with oneself to explore and set balance in our life.....
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Short Story on Gratitude (कृतज्ञता )

Human being is always in mode of expecting something and this compels one to know everything about gratitude and its importance in achieving balance in life.

Let us go through a short story of three friends. There were three friends knowing each other since long time. Name of the friends are Mr. Confused, second Mr. Sure and third Mr. Rich. Interestingly while Mr. Confused was good at study, innovative and hardworking too, Mr. Sure was good at study, practical and highly trustworthy person in the eyes of people in their circle and Mr. Rich was business minded, simple, calculative and a wealthy person.

Mr. Confused though hardworking could not succeed in his carrier. Mr. Sure was successful in his carrier and also had high regard among his friends, client and society as well. Mr. Rich was quiet successful in building wealth but due to his over occupied scheduled life, he was not having much circle of friends etc.

After many year of struggling Mr. Confused who was hardworking succeed in developing some technology which was to be used in the field of biotechnology industry and with this he started giving presentation to different person in the field for some tie-up or professional income. After long time of efforts, nothing was materialised and one fine day Mr. Confused told this to his friend Mr. Sure and asked if he can do something for him. Mr. Sure studied and asked Mr. Confused, see though your technique may be good and new, it has to be tested so I will ask someone to invest in a pilot project and see what can be achieved and if at all there is a profit, you may distribute among you and the investor. Mr. Confused asked to keep some share but Mr. Sure being liberal told as your need is acute at present so you carry on with your profits if any.

Mr. Sure called his friend Mr. Rich and briefed about the project of Mr. Confused. After deliberating on it Mr. Rich told Mr. Sure, see as such I have enough wealth but on your words I can put some money and see how the equation works without any risk on part of Mr. Sure.

So Mr. Sure arranged all meetings to finalise the deal and the pilot project started working. After a period of 12 months all the accounts were drawn, finalised and there was a good amount of profit too.

All three friends assembled and in presence of Mr. Sure, both Mr. Confused and Mr. Rich distributed the whole profit and they were looking happy while taking the money at their home.

Now I ask what would be the state of mind of Mr. Sure while both his friends were distributing the profit. Though he already declined sharing of profit earlier can a human being would not think like……. Had I decided to share the profit I would have been in a better position now.

After some time Mr. Confused called Mr. Rich to invest more and Mr. Rich in turn called Mr. Sure about this and told again I can invest more on the project but only on you words.

Now crux of the story comes. Will Mr. Sure pay attention to these calls from Mr. Rich or Mr. Confused? Naturally he replied to Mr. Rich this is you to decide about further investment, I am not sure about it. Consequently Mr. Rich came out of the venture and Mr. Confused became really confused and thought... Even after profit things did not turn to his side.

Friend, here comes the real importance of gratitude. In the above story both Mr. Rich and Mr. Confused never expressed their gratitude of Mr. Sure who was the key to the whole deal. They simply took their part of money and thus never realised that all happed because of the very role Mr. Sure played for both of them. Mr. Sure was liberal while declining share of profit but Mr. Confused and Mr. Rich jointly could share something voluntarily and offer a respect to Mr. Sure but lack of gratitude led them to breakup of the whole deal where the profit in future could be much more.

Every time we ask for favour, but we forget to thank. Thanks may be given by words or in kind like proper gifts at proper time and so on. One should not be thankless to anybody who has helped or supported to him and if we follow this we can say yes this is gratitude, not attitude.

----- Ashok Madrecha 

Personality Development Audio in Hindi

दोस्तों
पिछले २५ वर्षो के अपने व्यवसायिक अनुभव के दौरान मैंने यह पाया कि व्यक्तित्व  विकास में चार मुख्य बाधक तत्व हे जिन्हे मैंने अपने शब्दो में माध्यम से आप तक पहुँचाने का प्रयास किया है।  यदि आपको यह ऑडियो पसंद आये तो अपने विचार मुझे जरुर प्रेषित करे।
सप्रेम  धन्यवाद।
अशोक कुमार मादरेचा
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शेर शायरिया

शेर शायरियाँ 

नजरे मिला कर भी छुपा लेते हो अक्श को
क्या ये गफलत हे या शरारत आपकी।
कहते नहीं कुछ भी शायद मौन अजीज हे
शिकवा तो नहीं करते पर ये सजा ज्यादा हे।
मेरी इन्तहा मत लो सहने को घाव काफी हे
छोड़ दो मेरे हाल पे, जान लो कि में भी बेसब्र हु।
मंजिल कुछ भी हो साथ चलने को साथी हो बस
सफ़र आसां होगा गर आप यु रूठो नहीं।
गलत भी समझो मुझे तो ये भी नसीब हे मेरा
कह तो सकेंगे , मेरे हमदम ने कहा ऐसा।
पैगाम उन्हें ना मिला पर हलचल तो हे
मालूम नहीं कौनसा गुल खिलने वाला हे।
खयालों के तूफां को बहुत झेला अकेले ही
दो पल ही सही कुछ तो बोलो मुस्करा कर।
वीराने में औस गिरी , पर अंगारो पर
चाँद को नहीं मालूम क्या गुजरी बहारो पर।
_______  अशोक मादरेचा

संकल्प ( Determination )

संकल्प 

साधना के सोपान
जब दृष्टी के सामने हो
मन निर्मल और इरादे मजबूत हो
तो मंजिल क्यों नहीं मिलेगी
जरा गहराई में उतर कर तो देखो
लक्ष्य सामने रख कर तो देखो।
कष्ट भला किसे नहीं होता
राहे कौनसी निष्कंटक होती हे
सब बहाने हे मन को समझाने के।
सत्य से दूर भाग कर
कुछ क्षणों की राहत , आखिर
कब तक चलेगा ये सब कुछ।
चले आओ धरातल पर
यथार्त से जुड़ कर करो कूच आगे की
भुला दो इतिहास को
जीना तो सीखो वर्त्तमान में
जो हर पल चुकता जा रहा हे।
निकाल दो सभी संशय अपने मन से
अंतरिक्ष नापने का संकल्प लो
स्वयं की हस्ती को कुछ तो महसूस करो
प्रत्यक्ष परिणाम सामने आयेंगे
बस कुछ करने की जिद हो जिंदगी मे।

______     अशोक मादरेचा

शब्द ( words )

शब्द

शब्द अंतर में आकार लेते हे
शब्द सब कुछ कह देते हे।
इन शब्दों का संसार निराला हे
कुछ धोला तो कुछ काला हे।
ये शब्द कभी लड़ा देते हे
कभी प्यार बढ़ा देते हे।
उलजने उलजती शब्दों से
उलजने सुलजति भी शब्दों से।
विकल हर्दय को बल देते
कभी असक्त बना देते हे।
हर भाव को शब्द अभिव्यक्त करते
कभी ये दूर कभी आसक्त करते।
यु तो ये जुबान से निकलते हे
होते असमर्थ तो आँखों से भी टपकते हे।
शब्दों का सामर्थ्य अनंत होता हे
इनके साथ कोई हँसता कोई रोता हे।
शब्दों के साधक नायक बन जाते हे
इनसे अनजान खलनायक बन जाते हे।
भाषाओ का संसार शब्दों से चलता हे
तडपते कवि बिरहन का जैसे मन मचलता हे।
प्यार भरे शब्दों से सब पास आ जाते हे
सचमुच, सटीक शब्दों से सब काम बन जाते हे।
---  अशोक मादरेचा

Keep Your Relevance

Keep Your Relevance

Mr. Albert is working in a company as an office administrator since last 20 years. he is happy about his salary and perks but since last 5 years  he feels like he is ignored by fellow members of staff and sometime by the management too. What can be the reason ?

Mrs. Kelvin  is mother of two child. She was very happy till both the child grew up to the age of 15. Now she feels that she is lacking somewhere and in the family she is having less weight-age as it was existing earlier. What can be the reason?

Both the above  instances mentioned here may be mere examples but this is hard truth that over aperiod of time we loose relevance in our very role , may be it as a working person, parent, friend,or else one can imagine well.
Now question arises, How to keep our relevance and remain in mainstream of life as a whole? In short answer may be like,Remain updated with changes and keep pace with time. If not possible, change yourself for different role and priorities as well.
Time, things,expectations will always change and most of the time our mindset does not accept it and in process we are left out or kept out to make path for others. We must always keep willing to learn to the extent possible and this will make us less vulnerable to become irrelevant.
Relevance brings importance and irrelevance shows us the door of exit in every sphere of life, be it carrier, leadership of all kind or even family life.
Symptoms of Irrelevance : 
* People start neglecting you.
* Your advice is not sought for.
* Your orders are not obeyed.
* Your respect is lowered.
* You are invited less than earlier for key meetings etc.
Some important points may be kept in mind while handling irrelevance ....

Precautions to Manage Irrelevance:
1. Keep your health sound.
2. Hone your skill sharply.
3. Be with Time.
4. Adopt changes.
5. Keep your network strong.
6. Develop niche in your area  of working.
7. Build your finance strong enough to secure you completely.
8. Always review your ambitions, dreams after certain intervals of time and in light of your age specially.
9. Change your direction after assuring that you are short of your resources even after applying all the above
10. Last but not least , mind well , just to keep your relevance you should not get that much stressed.I mean
      remain cool and yes of course Be Positive.  
 My Best Wishes ....
Ashok Madrecha