Goal Setting Audio in English

Welcome to the 3rd audio in the series of Personality Development Audio in English.
 
In this audio I describe reasons for not achieving goals. Click play button now to know important points about Pursuing Goals.

Pursue your goals

Every time when you feel things will move, time will change, just see whether you are pursuing your goals on a sustained basis or waiting for the destiny to change repeatedly. If our expectations are high then efforts too must be more timely and focused.

Never conclude your victory or defeat without putting enough efforts. Time plays it's role but our own initiative makes a difference.

Goals may be anything, study, reaching a particular position, winning heart, become an influential leader, targeting an award, mastering a skill or profession and so on. Higher the goal, higher would be the need for efforts. Sitting pretty in your drawing room and thinking of changing everything with miracles must be avoided. Instead wholehearted persuasions of the goal will lead us to build our own incredible empire we dream upon. One can say, coming out of comfort zone would be the first step to pursue his or her goals. At the beginning, the journey may be very boring but after crossing some milestones it would become interesting more and more.

There are four reasons for not achieving goals

1. Lack of burning desire : there are people who get influenced by changing circumstances for instance, Just after reading newspaper headlines or meeting someone they set their goals and don't know what they wish to achieve. One should live the dream.

2. Setting wrong or unpractical goals : Be practical while setting a goal. Decide short term and long term goals and focus on what can be accomplished early. Unpractical goals will lead us to frustration only.

3. Efforts in wrong direction : even after putting all out effort goals are not within reach then certainly our efforts are in the wrong direction. Rethink your strategy and make suitable changes in your action plan.

4. Lack of resources : most of the time we find people complaining about the resources. We must first assess all three points above then think about all those who achieved their goals and ask ourselves whether we are the only one who are deprived of resources. Proper planning and action in the right direction on a sustained basis will surely lead us to great success.

Let's move and strive for the best.

Cultivate a hobby

When life seems to be at standstill hobby can be an answer. Most of us have some hobbies but we don't pay much attention to them due to many constraints. Truly speaking hobby is like communicating with one self and if cultivated properly it provides valuable meaning to life.

One can choose a hobby or hobbies as per his or her wishes. We find people enjoying with painting, writing, playing some games, walking, gardening, speaking, advising, counselling, singing, traveling, meditating and so on. When we do something as per our choice, it makes us like talking to ourselves and we start expressing in true senses which bring out stagnancy set in our life. Now we must see one important fact that while choosing hobby ensure that whether it is really communication with oneself or it is just killing our time. For instance watching a television series is not a hobby it can be fun. I feel we should not classify such things in the hobby though one can find these very essential for him.

My point is that hobby should increase your inner pleasure and satisfaction level as you advance in devoting into it. There are many people around the world whose hobby took them to height and they converted it in their profession with great success too. In most of the cases people surrender and compromise with their hobbies and eventually they loose charm in life. Once charm and inspiration lost, it becomes difficult to come out of negativity which haunts on a sustained basis and this makes us compelled to think about our hobbies which enables us to talk with our own soul really.

Personality Development Audio in Hindi - Money

Welcome to the 2nd audio in the series of Personality Development Audio in Hindi.

In this audio I describe how to manage wealth. Click play button now to know important points about money (पैसा).

पैसा (Money)

पैसा अथवा धन इंसान के द्वारा बनाई हुई वस्तुओं में शायद सबसे ज्यादा चर्चित विषय हे। आइये इस पैसे के बारे में कुछ रोचक बिन्दुओं को समझे।

1. पैसा हो और नहीं हो, दोनों ही अवस्था में व्यक्ति को व्यस्त कर देता हे। होने की अवस्था में धन को सँभालने में और नहीं हो तो उसे कमाने की भागदौड़ में जीवन का अधिकांश समय चला जाता हे।

2. पैसे से यदि जेब भरी हो तो आत्मविश्वास में वृद्धि होना आम बात हे परन्तु यदि पैसा पास नहीं हो तो चेहरे की चमक लुप्त हो जाती हे।

3. यदि पैसा ज्यादा हो जाये तो उस पैसे से और ज्यादा पैसा बनाने की लालसा बढ़ जाती हे और उस पैसे का उपयोग कैसे किया जाय इस बिंदु से ध्यान बिलकुल हट जाता हे।

4. पैसे में न जाने कैसी चुम्बकीय शक्ति होती हे कि इसके कारण सगे सम्बन्धी, मित्र आदि स्वतः अपनापन दिखाते हे।

5. पैसा सब कुछ तो नहीं पर बहुत कुछ खरीद सकता हे। इस दृष्टी से यह संसार को चलायमान बनाये रखता हे।

6. सुख के लिए दौलत पाने की हौड में दौलत तो कइयों को मिली हे परन्तु दौलत से सचमुच सुख कितनो को मिल सका इस पर खोज जारी हे।

7. धन जब हाथ में हो तभी अपना होता हे । सिर्फ आने की सम्भावना उसे अपना नहीं बना देती। कई लोगो ने सिर्फ धन के आने की संभावनाओं पर बड़े सौदे किये और कुछ ने कमाया भी होगा परन्तु उसमे से अधिकांश लोग अपना सारा भविष्य दांव पर लगा बैठे।

8. यह पैसा पड़ा पड़ा नष्ट हो जाता हे। महंगाई से इसकी सही कीमत घट जाती हे या समय के घटनाक्रम इसको सही सँभालने वाले के पास पहुंचा देते हे।

9. पैसा यदि मेहनत और अच्छी नियत से कमाया हे तो व्यक्ति में उस पैसे की कीमत की अच्छी समझ होती हे अन्यथा अहंकार स्पष्ट रूप से दिखाई देने लगता हे।

10. उपभोग ओर दान ये दो महत्वपूर्ण उपयोग पैसे के होते हे । यदि इन दोनों में से कुछ भी नहीं किया तो समझ लो कि वो पैसा कमाने वाले के काम नहीं आने वाला।

11. यदि पैसे का ज्यादा प्रदर्शन किया तो गवर्नमेंट यानि सरकार या गुंडे कोई तो पीछे पड़ने ही वाले हे।

12. पैसे यानि धन के कई स्वरुप होते हे जैसे मुद्रा, सोना, चांदी, मकान, बंगले कार, शेयर, कल कारखाने, बाग बगीचे, जमीन आदि। सभी स्वरूपों में पैसे की सतत सुरक्षा बहुत बड़ी चिन्ता बन जाती हे।

13. किसको कितना पैसा चाहिए यह व्यक्तिगत प्रश्न हे परन्तु किस समय कितना न्यूनतम पैसा जरुरी हे इसका विचार तो सभी को समय पर करना चाहिए।

14. पैसे की बुनियाद पर बने रिश्ते कमजोर होते हे फिर भी इससे पैसा कमजोर नहीं हो जाता, जहाँ पैसे का काम हो वहाँ पैसा ही चाहिये।

15. बहुत बड़ा आश्चर्य का विषय हे कि पैसा कमाने में बहुत लोग महारथी होते है पर उसे कब, किसपे, कैसे खर्च करे , इसमे बहुत गहन प्रशिक्षण की आवश्यकता है।

16. पैसा अपने आप में न बुरा होता हे न अच्छा ये तो हर व्यक्ति का दृष्टिकोण और उसे पाने एवं उपयोग के तरीको पर निर्भर करता हे कि पैसा उसकी दुनियां को आसान बनायें या वही पैसा उसकी मुश्किलों का सबसे बड़ा कारण बन जाये। संतुलित नजरिया ही इंसान के जीवन में आनंद ला सकता हे।

Religion or Rituals

Have a look at history, we can notice, one of the most prominent reason for massive violence world over is wrong interpretation of religion while the basic purpose for all religion is peace and liberation. Why so much contradiction ? What can be the reason ? Very simple, most of us follow rituals and not the religion in its true sense. Accomplishing a ritual is far different then following true spirit of a religion. This is the point where we start differing with other religious followers and eventually it leads to hate and sometime big wars too. This situation is like a camera which captures beautiful images but having no feature of viewing these images and still the owner feels proud of it. Going and attending particular prayer or any other ritual may add to our religious profile but simultaneously denying others right and faith will lead to unrest only.

Important part of any achievement are "work and efforts" then why religious rituals comes on front in our life and there we as an human being have to remain very vigilant and see whether it is really religion or mere ritual. Sometime rituals and religions, both these words are used as interchangeable which makes the situation more complex and confusing and it haunts our outer and inner progress considerably. As an individual too , many time one starts mere following ritual and after passage of sometime if the results are not as per expectations, one may doubt the very religion itself which he never understood so far. Moreover rituals too are defined or evolved as per convenience of situation, location, or as per wishes of some individuals who are good orators but not actual religious one, then one has to be very rational in deciding the truth and adopting it in his or her life.....

Me and We of Relationship

Relationship in life is common but but its longevity is little uncommon. We have so many relationships like husband and wife, man and women, brother and sister, son and father, mother and daughter, sister and sister, brother and brother, pupil and teacher and the list goes on. We build our relationship either by birth, by our contacts or may be due to some other reasons.

Most of us would agree on this truth that a good relationship makes a person happy and a strained relationship causes tension in life. This truth emphasizes the need to understand why a relationship breaks or get strained.

You would be surprised in many cases of couples coming to me for consulting before buying a house their first sentence was like " Sir We wish to buy a good house and plan accordingly, please suggest us. This We and Us are very nice words to bond them and this leads them to success in planning a good house too. let us go further, after some time many of these couples are now changing from this We and Us to Me and mine like words which are the root of serious damage to any kind of relationship. Later on I hear such words from them Sir, its me who bought the house and the other one says its me who manages the home now point here is that We is lost and Me has taken place of We. If anyone in a relationship changes priority which has bearing on others then be careful and see whether we are on verge of adopting this Me instead of We. Please count how many time you are using words like Me, Mine, and compare this count again after some days and see are you readying for a break up ? If you are sure that use of such words are higher then cautiously shift to We and Ours. This will make lot of difference. Journey of life would demand some changes in attitude and everyone should take note of this. behaving like I am always right is a myth and we should try to break this and not these precious relationships which are bestowed upon us. 

सच्चाई

ख़ुशी की खोज बाहर करना
फिर पुरानी गलती दोहराना
सुख शांति के दो पल पाने की
अभिलाषा बस कुछ कर जाने की
कोशिश करना व्यर्थ नहीं होता
प्रयत्नों से कौन समर्थ नहीं होता
ले नहीं पाते जिंदगी उतना देती हे
ज़माने का दोष नहीं, कर्मो की खेती हे
कई बार साफ़ दिखता भी हे
पर समझ कम पड़ जाती हे
दिग्भ्रमित से मंजिलो की तलाश में
कुछ मिलेगा हर वक़्त इसी आस में
स्वयं की व्यवस्था में लगे दिन रात
झूठ के सहारे करते रहे हर बात।
जब सच्चाई सामने प्रकट होगी
स्थिति स्वयं बड़ी विकट होगी
दर्पण से सामना नहीं कर पाओगे
अपना चेहरा खुद ही छुपाओगे
समय को कौन रोक पाता हे
ये तो बस बीतता जाता हे
ये तो बस बीतता जाता हे.…।