बदलते हमदम



( एक गुमराह पति के व्यवहार पर एक पत्नी की मनोदशा का चित्रण, एक कवि के शब्दों में )

इन निगाहों से तुम्हें बदलते देखा है
बारिशों में भी तुम्हें पिघलते देखा है।

माना कि हममें भी कुछ कमियां है
बीच बाजारों में तुम्हें बिकते देखा है।

तुम कहते कि किसी को मारना नही
पर हमने तुम्हें बंदूके खरीदते देखा है।

महफिलों में अक्सर खामोश रहते हो
तन्हाइयों में खूब गाते देखा है।

क्यूं परिंदों को पानी पिलाते हो
कितनों के गुलशन उजाड़ते देखा है।

उलझा दी है जिंदगी दौड़-भाग में
कई दफा तुम्हें नींद में चलते देखा है।

कहते हो कि तुम शराबी नही
दबे पांव महख़ानों में जाते देखा है।

लौट कर कभी तो आओ घर पे
मैंने तो तुम्हें सिर्फ निकलते देखा है।

बर्दाश्त नही यूँ  चुपचाप रोना तुम्हारा
क्या हुआ, तुम्हें तो हरदम हंसते देखा है।

                                                                            --- अशोक मादरेचा

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Stressed ? Read it..



Commenting on others is easy and for many it's entertaining, but analyzing oneself is far difficult and pointing out this fact in a given situation is again more difficult. Unless we understand ourselves, happiness would be a distance dream always. We are governed by our brain and heart and I feel, both are programmed by our past actions and reactions. While on one side we tend to listen logic, on other side we are more comfortable with emotions. This is irony and simultaneously blessings in disguise too, I would say. Now there is a big question, why stress makes inroads in our life ?

Broadly, we can say there are two major stresses :
1. Temporary or Situational
2. Prolonged or self created

Let's talk about Temporary or situational stress. When some situation develops and it disturbs anyone's comfort, it's a stress for him. There are lots of examples like unemployment, ruined relationship, polluted environment, increased expenses, failed in an examination and so on.

What are prolonged or self adopted stresses? In clear and very plain words I would say, when we develop habits of self fighting, it leads to prolonged or self adopted stresses. In such cases, people are living in their own perceptions and among these perceptions they make hyper permutations and combinations. Many times you might have seen people, though listening, but not able to answer as their whole inner world is busy waging a war with themselves. These types of people often apprehend situations which are not real, most of the time. That's why I name it a self-created stress.

So how we brace up to overcome stress? We have to be realistic and pragmatic while dealing with both these stresses. On certain occasions, situation seems logical and sometime it is an outcome of
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