पैसा (Money)

पैसा अथवा धन इंसान के द्वारा बनाई हुई वस्तुओं में शायद सबसे ज्यादा चर्चित विषय हे। आइये इस पैसे के बारे में कुछ रोचक बिन्दुओं को समझे।

1. पैसा हो और नहीं हो, दोनों ही अवस्था में व्यक्ति को व्यस्त कर देता हे। होने की अवस्था में धन को सँभालने में और नहीं हो तो उसे कमाने की भागदौड़ में जीवन का अधिकांश समय चला जाता हे।

2. पैसे से यदि जेब भरी हो तो आत्मविश्वास में वृद्धि होना आम बात हे परन्तु यदि पैसा पास नहीं हो तो चेहरे की चमक लुप्त हो जाती हे।

3. यदि पैसा ज्यादा हो जाये तो उस पैसे से और ज्यादा पैसा बनाने की लालसा बढ़ जाती हे और उस पैसे का उपयोग कैसे किया जाय इस बिंदु से ध्यान बिलकुल हट जाता हे।

4. पैसे में न जाने कैसी चुम्बकीय शक्ति होती हे कि इसके कारण सगे सम्बन्धी, मित्र आदि स्वतः अपनापन दिखाते हे।

5. पैसा सब कुछ तो नहीं पर बहुत कुछ खरीद सकता हे। इस दृष्टी से यह संसार को चलायमान बनाये रखता हे।

6. सुख के लिए दौलत पाने की हौड में दौलत तो कइयों को मिली हे परन्तु दौलत से सचमुच सुख कितनो को मिल सका इस पर खोज जारी हे।

7. धन जब हाथ में हो तभी अपना होता हे । सिर्फ आने की सम्भावना उसे अपना नहीं बना देती। कई लोगो ने सिर्फ धन के आने की संभावनाओं पर बड़े सौदे किये और कुछ ने कमाया भी होगा परन्तु उसमे से अधिकांश लोग अपना सारा भविष्य दांव पर लगा बैठे।

8. यह पैसा पड़ा पड़ा नष्ट हो जाता हे। महंगाई से इसकी सही कीमत घट जाती हे या समय के घटनाक्रम इसको सही सँभालने वाले के पास पहुंचा देते हे।

9. पैसा यदि मेहनत और अच्छी नियत से कमाया हे तो व्यक्ति में उस पैसे की कीमत की अच्छी समझ होती हे अन्यथा अहंकार स्पष्ट रूप से दिखाई देने लगता हे।

10. उपभोग ओर दान ये दो महत्वपूर्ण उपयोग पैसे के होते हे । यदि इन दोनों में से कुछ भी नहीं किया तो समझ लो कि वो पैसा कमाने वाले के काम नहीं आने वाला।

11. यदि पैसे का ज्यादा प्रदर्शन किया तो गवर्नमेंट यानि सरकार या गुंडे कोई तो पीछे पड़ने ही वाले हे।

12. पैसे यानि धन के कई स्वरुप होते हे जैसे मुद्रा, सोना, चांदी, मकान, बंगले कार, शेयर, कल कारखाने, बाग बगीचे, जमीन आदि। सभी स्वरूपों में पैसे की सतत सुरक्षा बहुत बड़ी चिन्ता बन जाती हे।

13. किसको कितना पैसा चाहिए यह व्यक्तिगत प्रश्न हे परन्तु किस समय कितना न्यूनतम पैसा जरुरी हे इसका विचार तो सभी को समय पर करना चाहिए।

14. पैसे की बुनियाद पर बने रिश्ते कमजोर होते हे फिर भी इससे पैसा कमजोर नहीं हो जाता, जहाँ पैसे का काम हो वहाँ पैसा ही चाहिये।

15. बहुत बड़ा आश्चर्य का विषय हे कि पैसा कमाने में बहुत लोग महारथी होते है पर उसे कब, किसपे, कैसे खर्च करे , इसमे बहुत गहन प्रशिक्षण की आवश्यकता है।

16. पैसा अपने आप में न बुरा होता हे न अच्छा ये तो हर व्यक्ति का दृष्टिकोण और उसे पाने एवं उपयोग के तरीको पर निर्भर करता हे कि पैसा उसकी दुनियां को आसान बनायें या वही पैसा उसकी मुश्किलों का सबसे बड़ा कारण बन जाये। संतुलित नजरिया ही इंसान के जीवन में आनंद ला सकता हे।

Religion or Rituals

Have a look at history, we can notice, one of the most prominent reason for massive violence world over is wrong interpretation of religion while the basic purpose for all religion is peace and liberation. Why so much contradiction ? What can be the reason ? Very simple, most of us follow rituals and not the religion in its true sense. Accomplishing a ritual is far different then following true spirit of a religion. This is the point where we start differing with other religious followers and eventually it leads to hate and sometime big wars too. This situation is like a camera which captures beautiful images but having no feature of viewing these images and still the owner feels proud of it. Going and attending particular prayer or any other ritual may add to our religious profile but simultaneously denying others right and faith will lead to unrest only.

Important part of any achievement are "work and efforts" then why religious rituals comes on front in our life and there we as an human being have to remain very vigilant and see whether it is really religion or mere ritual. Sometime rituals and religions, both these words are used as interchangeable which makes the situation more complex and confusing and it haunts our outer and inner progress considerably. As an individual too , many time one starts mere following ritual and after passage of sometime if the results are not as per expectations, one may doubt the very religion itself which he never understood so far. Moreover rituals too are defined or evolved as per convenience of situation, location, or as per wishes of some individuals who are good orators but not actual religious one, then one has to be very rational in deciding the truth and adopting it in his or her life.....

Me and We of Relationship

Relationship in life is common but but its longevity is little uncommon. We have so many relationships like husband and wife, man and women, brother and sister, son and father, mother and daughter, sister and sister, brother and brother, pupil and teacher and the list goes on. We build our relationship either by birth, by our contacts or may be due to some other reasons.

Most of us would agree on this truth that a good relationship makes a person happy and a strained relationship causes tension in life. This truth emphasizes the need to understand why a relationship breaks or get strained.

You would be surprised in many cases of couples coming to me for consulting before buying a house their first sentence was like " Sir We wish to buy a good house and plan accordingly, please suggest us. This We and Us are very nice words to bond them and this leads them to success in planning a good house too. let us go further, after some time many of these couples are now changing from this We and Us to Me and mine like words which are the root of serious damage to any kind of relationship. Later on I hear such words from them Sir, its me who bought the house and the other one says its me who manages the home now point here is that We is lost and Me has taken place of We. If anyone in a relationship changes priority which has bearing on others then be careful and see whether we are on verge of adopting this Me instead of We. Please count how many time you are using words like Me, Mine, and compare this count again after some days and see are you readying for a break up ? If you are sure that use of such words are higher then cautiously shift to We and Ours. This will make lot of difference. Journey of life would demand some changes in attitude and everyone should take note of this. behaving like I am always right is a myth and we should try to break this and not these precious relationships which are bestowed upon us. 

सच्चाई

ख़ुशी की खोज बाहर करना
फिर पुरानी गलती दोहराना
सुख शांति के दो पल पाने की
अभिलाषा बस कुछ कर जाने की
कोशिश करना व्यर्थ नहीं होता
प्रयत्नों से कौन समर्थ नहीं होता
ले नहीं पाते जिंदगी उतना देती हे
ज़माने का दोष नहीं, कर्मो की खेती हे
कई बार साफ़ दिखता भी हे
पर समझ कम पड़ जाती हे
दिग्भ्रमित से मंजिलो की तलाश में
कुछ मिलेगा हर वक़्त इसी आस में
स्वयं की व्यवस्था में लगे दिन रात
झूठ के सहारे करते रहे हर बात।
जब सच्चाई सामने प्रकट होगी
स्थिति स्वयं बड़ी विकट होगी
दर्पण से सामना नहीं कर पाओगे
अपना चेहरा खुद ही छुपाओगे
समय को कौन रोक पाता हे
ये तो बस बीतता जाता हे
ये तो बस बीतता जाता हे.…।

घर और इंसान

हमने ठिकाने बना लिए और
उनको मकानों का दर्जा भी दिया
काश घर बनाये होते
बेशक इतना कर्जा भी लिया।
हर दीवार चमकीली हे
सजा दिया बहुत सुन्दर तरीके से
गरूर का सामान बना दिया
क्या सकून भी लाये कुछ सलीके से।
सब सामान की जगह बना दी
हर कोने को भर दिया
आ जाते बूढ़े माँ बाप साथ रहने को
लगता कुछ तो अच्छा कर दिया।
हम आग से खेलते हे
पानी में बहते हुए
जिंदगी गुजार लेते हे
अजनबी से रहते हुए।
दौरे खुदगर्जी के तूफान में
इल्म रास नहीं आएगा
चलते रहना , गिरना मत
वर्ना कोई पास नहीं आएगा।
मकान तो बहुत हे कहने को
घर कहाँ मिलते हे
शरीर बहुत हे चलते फिरते
पर साथ चलने को इंसान कहाँ मिलते हे ।

Mind or Dustbean ?

It is quite important that we remain constantly aware of how we use our mind ? Just an information collector, dumping ground of so many unwanted scattered pieces of information and making it a scrapyard ? We must justify, if something is available and adding some type of excitement we immediately start storing data as if we are programmed accordingly and eventually our brain hangs sometime. One may argue well by stating that mind is not developed if not used fully. On the same line we can say there should always be some space to play and develop. Amazingly our educational system too bombards with so many old data which are sometime totally useless and I would say it is severe damage to our mental health. So what to do ? Can we change the entire world ? Yes but I would like to correct myself , we can change our own world entirely. Just calm down and think upon what information and type of data you are really required in your carrier, family, society or the circle you are in. What interest and hobbies you posses? I am sure you are getting me. Suppose a person working in a factory, having only interest in cricket , why we should expect from him that he should also know who were the stars of Titanic but our system and society today likes those who are full of unrelated information. To live healthy and for balanced mental health one should be vigilant enough to see whether others are programming us or we are justified in storing so much information.

The problem of over storing unrelated data in our brain is more serious in case of highly educated people. The more we develop our brain, more intellectual level we reach and creates thrust of more data and information to process but at this point of time the main question to be asked is, What information should be allowed and processed through our brain ? just try, many of us will laugh at ourselves and find how much clutter we do precess through our mind and possess too for long ...... Why ?

Status or Stress ?

Journey of life comprises of so many achievements, wealth, respect, recognition, image, brand, skill, and so on. Collectively all this makes a person different and it creates status . As a human being we try to keep it up and up. We should ask ourselves at what level we are comfortable with this status or I would say it so called status in other way. The reality of life is that if we under unknown pressure try to keep on maintaining this status, it creates stress, so ideally it should be spontaneous and not an obligation on constant basis just to show off and impress others by engaging our positive energy.

Other side effects of  "So called Status" which I personally observed are:

1) Jump in level of attitude instead of gratitude
2) Lesser communication with friends and close relatives
3) Feeling loneliness even after crossing many milestones in life
4) absence of humour and increase of monotony
5) Constant irritation with self or others
6) Living artificial life
7) Chasing unwanted objects for more status
8) Developing health hazards

The list above is just illustrative, you can add more and more points at your end. Point to be noted is that achieving something in life is not wrong in itself  what we miss is we put ourselves in chasing something which is not that much required primarily though it may be necessary . We must draw a line in between the both to make life more easy, balanced,simple, and enjoyable.