Showing posts with label Thinking Different. Show all posts
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You Knew It ... Still...

 



1. We can not make everyone happy at a time :To become decisive,we must accept the fact that everyone wont be happy by your actions and we should be ready for that. Your boss may be happy but your subordinates may not, your parents would be happy but spouse may not .

2. Changes are inevitable : to lead a balanced life we should be well aware of that everything changes except the change itself.  I agree , you have read it many times , you know it but while behaving with one or more we forget it and put ourselves in trouble repeatedly. We take something so seriously as if without it sky would fall and our actions start finding wrong directions.


3. Be pragmatic, not dogmatic. : world over most of the successful people's history shows that they were pragmatic and this led them to more acceptance and thereby more success too. Here one should differentiate flexibility and compromise well as per time and situation. Being practical in our approach is very useful in business too.





4. More we are selfish, more unhappiness. :simple rule to happiness is to remain selfless and unattached as much possible as we can. Tonnes of research paper one may find on attaining happiness, I would like to summarize and state that living for self only is not life one should always strive to be good and useful to others too and this will first big step to happiness.  

5. Understand well what governs our life , money, name or something else : if we can understand what really we need at particular stage of life then our efforts would not make us tired early. I would like to mention here that it is better to allow qualities to govern your life instead of a particular person.


6. Measure your freedom from time to time : everyone likes freedom. may be it is financial, social or else. As life advances we should have clarity about it. are we serious about it or just passing time. freedom itself is a big source of happiness.


7. Relate every decision with the time factor: deciding something requires input of time factor. Every decision has to be taken after considering time factor. for example, Mr. John is curious about investing in good home at his native place which is very far from his working place. He thinks he would be staying there for 10 days in a year. This decision should be taken in light of the time factor. What is the age of Mr. John, How healthy he is to commute ?
whether he would be able to maintain the house without going there. This is mere an example to take right decision.

8. If health is wealth then why one should ignore it: commonly it is said that health is wealth but in our routine life we
commonly ignore it too. Paying attention and sparing adequate time for health is must and there is no other option to this. adequate exercise, meditation, proper diet pattern has to be followed religiously.

9. Relationship is not just planting a tree , it requires water regularly: all relations are like plants and these requires water at regular intervals. Mostly we find that initially lot of enthusiasm is shown in any new relationship and after sometime maintaining it takes back seat resulting into break ups. Wise   people understands it and keep their relationship live and vibrant.




10. Confusion creates cowards so be sure about yourself: in my seminar, many time I find people are suffering just because they are confused.I suggest here we should always break questions and try to resolve them. Our approach of getting all answers at a time makes confusion more strong. a separate write up on confusion is written on this blog in article section.

    
11. Destiny , religion may be good to understand but taking efforts in right direction is must to achieve something: considerable part of time is spent on discussing what is destiny , where is god, What is religion etc. I would put it this way being spiritual is good but different than what is discussed academically. As an individual our thought process and actions should be focused on what is to be achieved specifically.

 
12. Accept good and bad both: We are happy if we are comfortable. This is human nature that we accept goodness, comfort, love, favor, service, different kind of gadgets but we don't like discomforts , orders, hate, etc. Point here is that everything carries good and bad elements both. If a person loves someone and hates his or her voice , can this work for long ? We have to accept bad and good both simultaneously more particularly in relationship.

     
13. If you don't have good relation with your neighbors, relatives, friends, family members simultaneously then introspect in deep: If you are facing such situation then something is wrong within you and it requires introspection. Just have a second thought about yourself and see what can be changed at your end first.


14. Never say anyone that you are wrong instead make them feel they are wrong if required. But this should not be the aim of life as it consumes lot of energy. Giving space is better than proving someone wrong.


15. Respect and love can not be attained by demanding : it is funny when we come across people seeking respect and love just by demanding. These people are desperate and feel like this is their right and all this leads them to no where.  life is an art of living where love blossoms and respect too showers on deserving and this can not be attained by demanding.


16. Take small steps first before you leap: any mission or goal can be accomplished on sound footing and for that one need to take small steps first. Any plan, team, resources and networking etc. requires grip on minute details hence taking leap is always advised after some small crucial steps.


17. Develop niche in some areas of your choice to make yourself valuable: Many people come with complaints of being not valued, not paid adequately in their job or else. I simply ask them do they update their knowledge  ? Do they have niche in some area where they can become unique or outstanding? if not then strive for this and these complaints will go away.  


18. Peace is the answer not the enmity: never say anybody enemy. Hostility destroys peace and without peace progress can not be achieved. Even due to some event or otherwise somebody is hostile try to overcome such hostility. Some liberal postures and actions can change whole life. I know well many diplomats would not agree to me.


19. Be Simple : living in your true being is relaxing so be simple. Complex life is very stressful. Even if you are wealthy, top achiever in any field , be polite , smiling .... may be you are a great leader of near future !  
   
20. Even after following all the above if you feel things are not as per your expectation , take pause, relax, life teaches you for better role and of course time too changes so don't worry at all, have courage .

Life may seems to be  battles
there are roses and patels
both are there cold and heat
heart is soft keep clean and neat
you may be fathers or mothers too
be happy and keep happy others too..


This article is written after deep study on many cases from different perspective. I wish every word of this write up will be useful not only to an individual but to organizations, societies, or even countries too. I personally dedicate this write up to entire humanity and those counselors who are putting serious efforts to bring happiness in others life selflessly. I appeal all my readers to share this article for spreading knowledge about living life in harmony .... thanks.. 
                                                                                   Ashok Madrecha 
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Arrangements to enjoyment


From our childhood to old age we are constantly arranging something or another with an objective to make life more comfortable or enjoyable.Irony of this situation is that in the process of arrangement we lose our balance in life and the stage of enjoyment is always postponed repeatedly rendering us to live in humiliating and uncertain situation for prolonged time.
Initially everybody tries to be secure and earning is essential part of journey for creation of wealth but at certain stage many people whose living hood is secured get crazy for respect and recognition which they wish to buy but respect can not be bought and this lead them to follow unfair means. They spend money and time too to attain respect of the society but instead of respect they create some sort of commercial brand value which again may be useful for their business but recognition of hearts requires giving something without any expectation and very few person can dare to this. Most people having such hunger for recognition try every way to get noticed which in reality is sheer falsehood.funny part of this process is that more they are     
noticed more they are found to be running after it. On one hand they feel proud,on other hand they become slave of either some individual, thing, or some specific situation which essentially changes with passage of time not necessarily up to or with their expectations. The journey of arranging recognition originally sounded well suddenly puts them to no where and such people starts feeling vacuum and fair amount of distraction. Stunning fact of this aspect of life is more true about most learned, educated and people who are well to do. Such people always look after real friends but rarely it happens as they are sitting on heap of ego which prevents them to come down and share their real inner self with any one. These people then feel stuck up in
one way traffic with only option to move ahead with same mistake of only arranging and not managing.People known to them have mercy on them but they are even unable to feel all this. So what can be the lesson ? Can't we say while arranging, We should also keep managing and enjoy life bestowed upon us.
Thanks
Ashok Madrecha
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हृदय से संवाद (Communication of the Heart)

आकाश और जमीन मिलते नहीं फिर भी क्षितिज के अस्तित्व को माना जाता है।  दिल की अतुल गहराईयों में होती अविराम हलचल भला किसको बेचैन नहीं करती , परन्तु यह सब सत्य का अहसास देता हे। मंजिल का मिलना तो शायद सबको ख़ुशी देता होगा , इन्तजार में भी खुश होना सीखना चाहिए।  समाधान सभी को नसीब नहीं होता है , यहाँ तो बस चलना होता हे , अविराम , निरंतर …।


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इंसान की विडम्बनाएं उसे सोचने की सही शक्ति नहीं दे पाती और वो कुछ भी पाने की कामनाये करता है।  दुखी होता है , जलता हे और यदि वह कुछ पाकर भी अचानक ऐसा लगने लगता हे जैसे यह सब तो उसने चाह कर गलती कर दी , समय नष्ट किया। बस यही पर समझने की जरुरत हे की हमारे लक्ष्य कही लघु तो नहीं ? नहीं तो अपनी ऊर्जा का व्यर्थ होना निश्चित हे और अपने अस्तित्व की सार्थकता प्राप्त होना तो दूर उसे महसूस करना भी मुश्किल हो जायेगा।
 ---- अशोक मादरेचा
All these are thoughts and communication with oneself to explore and set balance in our life.....
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Short Story on Gratitude (कृतज्ञता )

Human being is always in mode of expecting something and this compels one to know everything about gratitude and its importance in achieving balance in life.
Let us go through a short story of three friends. There were three friends knowing each other since long time. Name of the friends are Mr. Confused, second Mr. Sure and third Mr. Rich. Interestingly while Mr. Confused was good at study, innovative and hardworking too, Mr. Sure was good at study, practical and highly trustworthy person in the eyes of people in their circle and Mr. Rich was business minded, simple, calculative and a wealthy person.

Mr. Confused though hardworking could not succeed in his carrier. Mr. Sure was successful in his carrier and also had high regard among his friends, client and society as well. Mr. Rich was quiet successful in building wealth but due to his over occupied scheduled life, he was not having much circle of friends etc.

After many year of struggling Mr. Confused who was hardworking succeed in developing some technology which was to be used in the field of biotechnology industry and with this he started giving presentation to different person in the field for some tie-up or professional income. After long time of efforts, nothing was materialised and one fine day Mr. Confused told this to his friend Mr. Sure and asked if he can do something for him. Mr. Sure studied and asked Mr. Confused, see though your technique may be good and new, it has to be tested so I will ask someone to invest in a pilot project and see what can be achieved and if at all there is a profit, you may distribute among you and the investor. Mr. Confused asked to keep some share but Mr. Sure being liberal told as your need is acute at present so you carry on with your profits if any.

Mr. Sure called his friend Mr. Rich and briefed about the project of Mr. Confused. After deliberating on it Mr. Rich told Mr. Sure, see as such I have enough wealth but on your words I can put some money and see how the equation works without any risk on part of Mr. Sure.

So Mr. Sure arranged all meetings to finalise the deal and the pilot project started working. After a period of 12 months all the accounts were drawn, finalised and there was a good amount of profit too.

All three friends assembled and in presence of Mr. Sure, both Mr. Confused and Mr. Rich distributed the whole profit and they were looking happy while taking the money at their home.

Now I ask what would be the state of mind of Mr. Sure while both his friends were distributing the profit. Though he already declined sharing of profit earlier can a human being would not think like……. Had I decided to share the profit I would have been in a better position now.

After some time Mr. Confused called Mr. Rich to invest more and Mr. Rich in turn called Mr. Sure about this and told again I can invest more on the project but only on you words.

Now crux of the story comes. Will Mr. Sure pay attention to these calls from Mr. Rich or Mr. Confused? Naturally he replied to Mr. Rich this is you to decide about further investment, I am not sure about it. Consequently Mr. Rich came out of the venture and Mr. Confused became really confused and thought... Even after profit things did not turn to his side.

Friend, here comes the real importance of gratitude. In the above story both Mr. Rich and Mr. Confused never expressed their gratitude of Mr. Sure who was the key to the whole deal. They simply took their part of money and thus never realised that all happed because of the very role Mr. Sure played for both of them. Mr. Sure was liberal while declining share of profit but Mr. Confused and Mr. Rich jointly could share something voluntarily and offer a respect to Mr. Sure but lack of gratitude led them to breakup of the whole deal where the profit in future could be much more.
Every time we ask for favour, but we forget to thank. Thanks may be given by words or in kind like proper gifts at proper time and so on. One should not be thankless to anybody who has helped or supported to him and if we follow this we can say yes this is gratitude, not attitude.
----- Ashok Madrecha 
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Personality Development Audio in Hindi


दोस्तों
पिछले २५ वर्षो के अपने व्यवसायिक अनुभव के दौरान मैंने यह पाया कि व्यक्तित्व  विकास में चार मुख्य बाधक तत्व हे जिन्हे मैंने अपने शब्दो में माध्यम से आप तक पहुँचाने का प्रयास किया है।  यदि आपको यह ऑडियो पसंद आये तो अपने विचार मुझे जरुर प्रेषित करे।
सप्रेम  धन्यवाद।
अशोक कुमार मादरेचा
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शेर शायरिया

शेर शायरियाँ 


नजरे मिला कर भी छुपा लेते हो अक्श को
क्या ये गफलत हे या शरारत आपकी।
कहते नहीं कुछ भी शायद मौन अजीज हे
शिकवा तो नहीं करते पर ये सजा ज्यादा हे।
मेरी इन्तहा मत लो सहने को घाव काफी हे
छोड़ दो मेरे हाल पे, जान लो कि में भी बेसब्र हु।
मंजिल कुछ भी हो साथ चलने को साथी हो बस
सफ़र आसां होगा गर आप यु रूठो नहीं।
गलत भी समझो मुझे तो ये भी नसीब हे मेरा
कह तो सकेंगे , मेरे हमदम ने कहा ऐसा।
पैगाम उन्हें ना मिला पर हलचल तो हे
मालूम नहीं कौनसा गुल खिलने वाला हे।
खयालों के तूफां को बहुत झेला अकेले ही
दो पल ही सही कुछ तो बोलो मुस्करा कर।
वीराने में औस गिरी , पर अंगारो पर
चाँद को नहीं मालूम क्या गुजरी बहारो पर।
_______  अशोक मादरेचा
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शब्द ( words )

शब्द
शब्द अंतर में आकार लेते हे
शब्द सब कुछ कह देते हे।
इन शब्दों का संसार निराला हे
कुछ धोला तो कुछ काला हे।
ये शब्द कभी लड़ा देते हे
कभी प्यार बढ़ा देते हे।
उलजने उलजती शब्दों से
उलजने सुलजति भी शब्दों से।
विकल हर्दय को बल देते
कभी असक्त बना देते हे।
हर भाव को शब्द अभिव्यक्त करते
कभी ये दूर कभी आसक्त करते।
यु तो ये जुबान से निकलते हे
होते असमर्थ तो आँखों से भी टपकते हे।
शब्दों का सामर्थ्य अनंत होता हे
इनके साथ कोई हँसता कोई रोता हे।
शब्दों के साधक नायक बन जाते हे
इनसे अनजान खलनायक बन जाते हे।
भाषाओ का संसार शब्दों से चलता हे
तडपते कवि बिरहन का जैसे मन मचलता हे।
प्यार भरे शब्दों से सब पास आ जाते हे
सचमुच, सटीक शब्दों से सब काम बन जाते हे।
---  अशोक मादरेचा
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Keep Your Relevance

Keep Your Relevance


Mr. Albert is working in a company as an office administrator since last 20 years. he is happy about his salary and perks but since last 5 years  he feels like he is ignored by fellow members of staff and sometime by the management too. What can be the reason ?
Mrs. Kelvin  is mother of two child. She was very happy till both the child grew up to the age of 15. Now she feels that she is lacking somewhere and in the family she is having less weight-age as it was existing earlier. What can be the reason?
Both the above  instances mentioned here may be mere examples but this is hard truth that over aperiod of time we loose relevance in our very role , may be it as a working person, parent, friend,or else one can imagine well.
Now question arises, How to keep our relevance and remain in mainstream of life as a whole? In short answer may be like,Remain updated with changes and keep pace with time. If not possible, change yourself for different role and priorities as well.
Time, things,expectations will always change and most of the time our mindset does not accept it and in process we are left out or kept out to make path for others. We must always keep willing to learn to the extent possible and this will make us less vulnerable to become irrelevant.
Relevance brings importance and irrelevance shows us the door of exit in every sphere of life, be it carrier, leadership of all kind or even family life.
Symptoms of Irrelevance : 
* People start neglecting you.
* Your advice is not sought for.
* Your orders are not obeyed.
* Your respect is lowered.
* You are invited less than earlier for key meetings etc.
Some important points may be kept in mind while handling irrelevance ....

Precautions to Manage Irrelevance:
1. Keep your health sound.
2. Hone your skill sharply.
3. Be with Time.
4. Adopt changes.
5. Keep your network strong.
6. Develop niche in your area  of working.
7. Build your finance strong enough to secure you completely.
8. Always review your ambitions, dreams after certain intervals of time and in light of your age specially.
9. Change your direction after assuring that you are short of your resources even after applying all the above
10. Last but not least , mind well , just to keep your relevance you should not get that much stressed.I mean
      remain cool and yes of course Be Positive.  
 My Best Wishes ....
Ashok Madrecha
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