Jun 3, 2016

रूठे सनम से फरियाद (Complaining with an annoyed lover)


 
अरसे से बुला रहा हूँ तो जवाब भी नहीं देते
जरुरत चीज बड़ी, कहते है उड़ कर आ जाओ।

में गाफिल कहाँ था, वक़्त कमजोर था मेरा
जिसने सताया था, वो तो दोस्त था मेरा।

तेरी कतारों में कोई मेरा हमशक्ल रहा होगा
में तो दिल में था तेरे, कमबख्त खामोशियां पाले।

बोलते थे बहुत, कभी ध्यान नहीं गया
अब चुप क्या हुए, कयामत आ गयी।

सलीक़े से मेरी सब खबर रखते हो
अब क्या क़त्ल करने का इरादा है।

रूबरू होकर नजर भी नहीं मिलाते
लोग देखते है, चलो कुछ गुफ्तगू कर ले।

फासले जमीं के नहीँ थे
जहाँ थे तुम, हम भी तो वहीँ थे।

मेरी अक्स पे नजर डाले, गुजर जाते लोग
मील का पत्थर जो ठहरा तेरी राहों का।

पाक रिश्तों की पनाहों में कुछ गलतियां भी हुई होगी
वर्ना मोहब्बतें यूँ आसानी से बदनाम नहीं होती।

रूठे थे दिन में, रातों को मना लेते
इतने पत्थरदिल सनम हम नहीं थे।

अच्छा हुआ कि तन्हाइयों ने साथ निभाया
काश उनको आप सौतन तो मान लेते।

कम हो गया होगा नूर, ज़मीर तो जिन्दा है
चाहो तो बदस्तूर आजमा कर देख लो।

अल्फाझ तो मेरे हलक में अटके थे
लोग कहते रहे, पगला गया ये सख़्श।

गिले शिकवे तो अपने दरम्यां थे अशोक
नादान, नुरे इश्क का कसूर क्या था।


May 29, 2016

Perceiving The Existence of Soul


Our body has some special part and possess forces which are constantly keeping a watch on anything we act or think. In India many call it a third eye. Some people may agree or some may not but it is really interesting that there is a big hard disk or server existing within our soul which is in our body.

The soul is eternal so the server or hard disk too should be working inside it. The server is having far bigger capacity of memory to store huge data and it processes these sets of data when there is a conducive environment. This is a journey of knowing the unknown within us. 

We behave as per our basic nature, perceptions and beliefs but deep within ourselves there is a huge system which works constantly. We call it by different names like Destiny, Karma and so on to the extent we develop understanding about it. I am not talking about religion here rather striving for a constructive thought process about our inner self. Soul-searching and religion both are totally different though their meaning is known to be synonymous in common parlance. Generally religion is evolved by others and then followed, while soul-searching is always an individual approach where in it is not necessary to follow a defined set of rules, eventually it brings different experience too. So mute question comes up, how do we know about this inner system and benefit from it and start a nice journey towards complete self-realization if we really aspire for it.

Some steps we can explore are explained here:

Observation : Observing is an art. how to observe, what to observe and how to remain vigilant while observing, all these questions are very important and one has to find answers on his own by practicing observance individually. Some of the area may be like observing sunrise, inner feelings, behavior of self and others, flowing water, watching stars or moon at midnight, breathing, emotions and so on.
   
Thought process : It is interesting to note that once we learn observing, our thought process start getting direction. We get closer to more consciousness-centric reality. In straight words, we start having grip on our thought-process.

Meditation : There is enough literature, write-ups available everywhere but just to simplify it I would like to add that meditation can not be pursued, instead it should happen naturally. It does not always require forest or some lonely place, It is within you and let it reveal itself by being what you are in real. Our calmness is our meditation, Our concentration is our meditation and in fact our happiness is true meditation. I am not playing with words, its really true that when you are happy, that state of mind is really a true meditation.

Change : You might have heard that change is sure, inevitable and everything changes and so on. Yes I too agree with these facts but my point is think about "desired or required change". Life is so small so we can not remain aloof and let every change take place as it happens. We as an eternal soul can make changes.When meditation start happening, changes do take place positively. It is not by compulsion, it is spontaneous. Yes each of us will have a different story but meditation helps a lot.

Consistency : All of the above, if not followed or attained on sustained basis it looses consistency and thus its effectiveness eventually. Each time you meditate or observe you will enjoy to know that  different avenues are opening up. You will be able to find your answers on your own and its a great fun too.

Attaining Purity : Purity may have different meaning but here it is referred for state of our soul. When our soul-searching starts it heals, it brings changes, it liberates, it affects our health positively, it increases our intuition, penance and the more we advance, more we are near to purity and transformation. All of sudden you can not talk about purity, it has to be attained by following the other points we discussed above.

Last but not least, if we really follow and feel all these the journey of self-realization starts......
Ashok Madrecha

May 6, 2016

बस करो अब... (Enough is Enough)



बस करो अब ये दिखावा
खुद जिंदगी तंग होने लगी है।
कभी तो सुन लो अंतर की पुकार
देखो वो तार तार होने लगी है।
क्या साबित करोगे,और किसे पड़ी है तुम्हारी
अहंकार की जमीन भी हिलने लगी है।
मीठे बोल कर जहर घोलते रहे चुपचाप
भरोसे की नीवं हिलने लगी है।
क्या बचाओगे, क्या संभालोगे
पानी में भी तो आग लगने लगी है।
जिनके जज्बातों से खेलते रहे ताजिंदगी
अब उनकी आँहें बहुत सताने लगी है।
आजकल जेबों में कुछ रुकता नहीं
उनमे भी पैबंद लगने लगी है।
आडम्बर की आड़ में खुद को गिराते गए
नतीजा देखो, दुनियां तुम्हे गिराने लगी है।
सच को झूठ कितना बनाओगे
समय की मार तो पड़ने लगी है।
अपनी सांसो पे गरूर करते हो
वो देखो धीमी हो गयी, शायद थमने लगी है।

(Hindi poem on living life with double standard)

Apr 30, 2016

उम्मीदों का जहां


सन्नाटों में खुद के सायों से बाते करते हो
कहते कि अकेले नही, पर आहें भरते हो।
अरसा हो गया हमसे बात करके
अब ये मत कहना कि रोये नहीं जी भर के।
खुद को सजा देने की आदत तो पुरानी है
इश्क और इम्तहाँ की लंबी जो कहानी है।
कुछ बाँट लेते दर्द, ह्रदय तो हल्का हो जाता
गैर सही हम, अश्कों को अवकाश मिल जाता।
हर जगह सबको क़द्रदान कहाँ मिलते है
समय और संयोग से ही सुंदर फूल खिलते हैे।
पोंछ दो आँसू, उम्मीदों पर संसार चलता है
स्वीकार करो, आशाओं में प्यार पलता है।
कितनी देर हुई ये गिनती भी जरुरी नहीं
खुद को रोकना कोई मजबूरी नहीं।
कौनसे वक्त का इंतजार कर रहे हो
या किसी अनहोनी से डर रहे हो।
विश्वास करो, थाम लो मन की पतवार को
करीब है मंजिल, दस्तक तो दो द्वार को।

Apr 24, 2016

Start with vision



Life paves different ways to live. We constantly act and react, sometimes necessary and sometimes unnecessarily. It all depends on our thought process and the vision we develop over a long period. Vision once set in our mind affects our entire life. Recently somebody asked me, what is the best gift from parents to their children, I simply replied " If you can give them the vision of right kind, it will the best gift for them. 

Vision defines your goal, ambition, destination, lifestyle, relationship, wealth, luck, friends, networking, carrier, health, success, happiness and whatnot. We find people struggling for wealth, good perks, real brothers fighting for a piece of land, Industrialists fighting for corporate takeovers, Political leaders seeking votes with all unfair means, all these speak about their kind of vision they possess. You may notice, apparently looking powerful, they all are in a state of unsecured feeling and their vision is obstructed by their own thought process. A visionary person always believes in creating and adding value. He would not waste time in dividing people. 

You may find there are many people who are wealthy but happiness is with people with vision and positive mindset only. If our present is not as per our expectation who bars us to improve and evolve a broad vision which should attract good luck to us. Believe me, if you practice such kind of thinking with having a feeling of wellness for all, you will constantly attract far better time in your life. Yes, it's your turn now.

Mar 24, 2016

पैसा है पर सुख नहीं तो पढ़े...


आप सभी ने कहीं न कहीं यह जरूर देखा होगा, सुना होगा या महसुस किया होगा कि इस संसार में कई परिवार या व्यक्ति ऐसे है जिनके पास संपत्ति है और आमदनी  की अच्छी व्यवस्था है फिर भी ख़ुशी नहीं। यह सचमुच एक बड़ी विडम्बना है परंतु सत्य है।
कुछ उदाहरण पर चर्चा करते है :
एक व्यक्ति के पास पैसा बहुत है परन्तु उसे शिकायत है कि लोग उसे सम्मान नहीं देते।
एक महाशय अपने सभी रिश्तदारों से नाराज चल रहे है।
एक परिवार पैसे के साथ सामाजिक और राजनैतिक रूप से काफी प्रभावशाली है फिर भी वहाँ खुशियां दिखाई नहीं देती।
एक परिवार में बच्चे सबका अनादर करते है।
कहीँ पर स्त्रियों पर अत्याचार की स्थिती है।
किसी जगह पे रोगों ने अपना अड्डा जमा लिया है।

आखिर क्या कारण है कि इतना सब होते हुए भी जीवन में रिक्तता का निर्माण हो जाता है। मनुष्य इतना अकेला हो जाता है। इन सब विडंबनाओं के पीछे कुछ खास कारण है, आओ हम इस पर गौर करे।

कारण :

1. सिर्फ खुद के बारे में सोचना या करना।
2. रिश्तों के बजाय सामग्री में सुख खोजना।
3. अनचाही व्यस्तता ।
4. दोहरे मापदंडो वाली जिंदगी जीना।
5. सिर्फ इकठ्ठा करने की प्रवृत्ति  ।
6. अव्यवहारिक अपेक्षाओं में जीना।
7. अपने अहम् का पोषण करने की प्रवृत्ति।
8. भ्रम या सबको खुश करने की आदत।
9. दूसरों का श्रेय खुद लेने की आदत।
10. भविष्य को हमेशा अच्छा मानकर चलना।
11. रचनात्मक बातों के बजाय सिर्फ वाद विवाद करना।
12. मानवीय मूल्यों का अनादर करना।
13. समय के साथ परिवर्तन को नहीं अपनाना।
14. खान-पान की मर्यादाओं का सतत उलंघन।
15. परिवार या रिश्तेदारों में मेल-मुलाकातों का अभाव।

उपरोक्त सभी बाते कई लोगों का व्यवहारिक अध्ययन करने के उपरान्त लिखी गयी है। यहां पर ऐसे भी लोग उपलब्ध है जिन्होंने सम्पूर्ण जीवन में किसी की एक बार भी मदद करने का आनंद नहीं लिया। हर व्यक्ति अपने आप में दूसरे से भिन्न होता है फिर भी यदि इन बातो को हम थोडा भी जीवन में उतार सके तो काफी परेशानियों से बच सकते है और जीवन को खुशहाल बना सकते है।
..अशोक मादरेचा

Mar 19, 2016

#Meaningful Life


Any wise person would definitely feel at some point of time and he would be compelled to think  what is the purpose of life. If this becomes clear, life finds its meaning. Finding a purpose is all matter of individual choice and there can not be a rule of thumb. Let us analyze and try following three steps to get as near as possible to reach a process of finding a purpose in life so the true happiness is attained.


Step 1 : Ascertain symptoms of purposeless life: 


We find people saying :
I feel just bored living a routine life.
I wish more freedom.
I feel my friends and relatives avoid me.
If something happened like this I would have done extremely well.
I don't like anybody in this world.
This world is hopeless.
I am just alive.
Even if I extend favor people forget it.
Where is happiness.
Life is all challenge.
I want a complete change.
There should be a nice person with me to whom I can share everything
and so on...

If you feel anything like the above, then this is true that you are not living a meaningful life. You are living a life either full of unrealistic expectations or you are completely directionless.

Let us go further to the second step,

Step 2 : Ensure purpose of life to make it meaningful

It is mentioned earlier that this is an individual choice but we can start thinking this way and find it as soon as possible:

Accept first, everything is not ours and we are not compelled  to react to everything what happens around us even if it is affecting us. The moment you assume something is yours, be it a person or object, worries of protecting it will be transferred to you so it is up to you what exactly you should own it or not.  What to seek and pursue is always our choice but that doesn't mean we follow everything which comes in our way. Ascertain well in which field we can excel and at what point of our age we are. Take proper stock of resources available and correlate everything to have proper direction. One should also think what makes her or him happy. At some point of time one can be happy with something and may not at other point of time. If something has gone forever it must be accepted. If something is available to others, that should not be your problem, In such thought process try to figure out what can be achieved by you at what cost and whether it is worth for you in terms of happiness or else.

Step 3 :  List your Goals and segregate them and act upon
 
Once you conclude very purpose or purposes of your life, set goals which may be of short-term and long-term. Of course every milestone may not give you happiness, but the result would make you happy if your direction is well thought and by this process you will be able to visualize how to set balance in life and figure out the true meaning in it.


Jan 29, 2016

Stay Focused



While accomplishing a task or otherwise, always there is a possibility of losing our focus and indulging in unwarranted activities. We go for buying vegetables and we start discussing politics. Guests visit our home and instead of focusing on hospitality we suddenly start talking about religion which probably we don't follow in our routine. We attend so many meetings and at the end we feel outcome is far less as compared to our expectations. There are many such instances and the list goes on.

Constant self vigilance can be achieved by practice and that is the only way to see our thought process and control it to keep desired things in loop and focus. Many time we assemble to meet with preset agenda and by some influence or otherwise we leave track and see whole agenda itself is hijacked by others.

The simple reason for all this is having an ad hoc approach which makes us ineffective while dealing with different situations. Compare a text message with an other text message having some meaningful picture, I feel the other one would be far more effective. At the end of each day if we start counting that how many times we talked non sense and irrelevant things, we would start laughing at ourselves. It is bitter truth and we must accept it for striking right balance in life.

The severity of our unfocused approach is not immediately known. Ask a person about his feelings who missed choosing a right career at the start or anyone who missed on saving while he had very good earnings and they won't even be able to have proper words to express their repentance.

The moot point we should know is whatever we do, we don't have unlimited time so do the right things at right time with right and judicious use of resources available with us.

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