मन और चेतन का विश्लेषण (Mind and Spirit analysis)

हमे मन और चेतन का अनुभव शरीर के द्वारा होता है। यदि आप थोड़ा सूक्ष्म विश्लेषण करे तो देखेंगे कि हम हर वक्त विचारों, क्रियाओं या प्रतिक्रियाओं के इर्द गिर्द ही घूमते रहते है। और ये सब किसी विश्वास, भय, अपेक्षा, अहंकार या इच्छा विशेष के कारण होता है।

Stressed ? Read it..

Commenting on others is easy and for many it's entertaining, but analyzing oneself is far difficult and pointing out this fact in a given situation is again more difficult. Unless we understand ourselves, happiness would be a distance dream always. We are governed by our brain and heart and I feel, both are programmed by our past actions and reactions. While on one side we tend to listen logic, on other side we are more comfortable with emotions. This is irony and simultaneously blessings in disguise too, I would say. Now there is a big question, why stress makes inroads in our life ?

Broadly, we can say there are two major stresses :
1. Temporary or Situational
2. Prolonged or self created

Let's talk about Temporary or situational stress. When some situation develops and it disturbs anyone's comfort, it's a stress for him. There are lots of examples like unemployment, ruined relationship, polluted environment, increased expenses, failed in an examination and so on.

What are prolonged or self adopted stresses? In clear and very plain words I would say, when we develop habits of self fighting, it leads to prolonged or self adopted stresses. In such cases, people are living in their own perceptions and among these perceptions they make hyper permutations and combinations. Many times you might have seen people, though listening, but not able to answer as their whole inner world is busy waging a war with themselves. These types of people often apprehend situations which are not real, most of the time. That's why I name it a self-created stress.

So how we brace up to overcome stress? We have to be realistic and pragmatic while dealing with both these stresses. On certain occasions, situation seems logical and sometime it is an outcome of

जीवन की विडम्बनाएं (Irony of life)

अपने लंबे व्यावसायिक जीवन में मुझे कई व्यक्तियों से मिलने अथवा साथ काम करने का अनुभव मिला। जीवन अपने आप में पूर्ण नहीं होता। किसी को कुछ उपलब्ध नही तो किसी को जरूरत से ज्यादा वस्तुएं या सुविधाएं उपलब्ध है। आइये कुछ छोटी छोटी कहानियों के माध्यम से हम जीवन की सच्चाई को समझे:

1. एक होनहार उद्योगपति अपने बढ़ते व्यापार के बीच भी संतुष्ट नही था। कई बार उससे मिलने का मौका आया पर हर बार उसके चहेरे पर असन्तुष्टि स्पष्ट नजर आती थी। एक बार मुझे उसके साथ एक समारोह में जाने का संयोग बन गया और वहाँ जाकर उसके व्यवहार में आये बदलाव को देखकर मुझे समझ मे आया कि वो इतना असंतुष्ट क्यो था। मैंने देखा कि उस समारोह में उस उद्योगपति से भी कई बड़ी हस्तियां मौजूद थी और वो अपने से बड़े उद्योगपतियों के आगे पीछे घूम रहा था। मेरे मन मे विचार आया कि ये व्यक्ति कितना निर्धन है जो अपने पास सब कुछ होते हुए भी इस तरह से किसी अनजान भूख से सतत व्याकुल है। शायद उसे महत्वपूर्ण बनने की चाह थी या किसी की अनुकंपा पाने की अभिलाषा। सचमुच संसार मे हम अप्राप्त वस्तुओ के प्रति ज्यादा आकर्षित होते है और प्राप्त वस्तुओं के महत्व को समझ ही नही पाते।

2. एक युवा शादी करता है और कुछ ही दिनों के बाद उसका अपनी पत्नी से मोहभंग हो जाता है। कारण जानकर आश्चर्य होगा कि उसकी पत्नी सीधी, संस्कारी और पारिवारिक मूल्यों को समझने वाली थी। उस युवा को आधुनिक, पार्टी इत्यादि में रुचि रखनेवाली पत्नी चाहिए थी। नतीजा- तलाक हो गया। उसने फिर शादी की ओर आधुनिक पत्नी घर लाया। अब ये पत्नी घर का काम बिल्कुल नही करती और बड़ो का तिरस्कार करती । इस कहानी का भी यही सार है कि जो उपलब्ध है उसकी अवहेलना हो रही और जो दूर है उसकी अपेक्षा में वक़्त जाया हो रहा। इंसान रोज सिर्फ सपनों की दुनियां को हकीकत मान रहा। अपने कर्तव्य के बजाय हम अधिकारों की जानकारी ज्यादा रखते है और जीवन को अनायास ही नर्क में ढकेल देते है।

3. एक उच्च शिक्षा प्राप्त लड़की की शादी अच्छे खानदान में हो गयी। घर मे सब सुविधाएं थी, परन्तु लड़की का मानना था कि बाहर कोई कंपनी में जॉब किया जाय तो अच्छा रहेगा, जैसे पैसा हाथ मे आता रहेगा, घर का काम नही करना पड़ेगा आदि आदि। समय के साथ लड़की का घर से संपर्क कम होता गया,नतीजा ये हुआ कि संतान देरी से हुई, स्वास्थ्य पर स्थायी रूप से असर हो गया। बैंक में थोड़ा पैसा तो बढ़ गया पर घर के बजाय वो अनजाने में अपने जॉब ओर बोस की ग़ुलाम हो गयी। उसके घर पर बड़ा व्यापार था, उसको संभालने की पूरी आजादी भी थी पर होनी को कौन टाल सकता है, व्यक्ति दूर की अप्राप्त वस्तुओं पर आकर्षित होता है और घर के बजाय अन्य में सुख खोजने का प्रयत्न करता रहता है और इसी दौरान जीवन का स्वर्णिम समय बीत जाता है।

उपरोक्त तीन कहानियां सिर्फ संदर्भ के लिए यहाँ लिखी गयी है लेकिन वास्तविक जीवन मे हर व्यक्ति या परिवार में इस तरह की अनगिनत कहानियां रोज आकर लेती है। वास्तविकता ये है कि यदि हम दया, मैत्री, समता जैसे सद्गुणों को जीवन की दौड़ में बहुत पीछे छोड़ आये है। वर्तमान को भूल कर या तो बीते समय का रोना रोते है या भविष्य की चिंता में खोये रहते है।हम अपने आपको बहुत चतुर समझते है और दूसरों को अंधेरे में रख कर जीने को कला की संज्ञा देते है और ये मान लेते है कि इसका प्रतिफल भी हमारे नियंत्रण में है। मानवता के मूल्यों को जो अपनाता है उसके स्वाद का मजा तो वो ही ले सकता है। आज भी नियति अपना काम करती है। चलो कुछ पल ही सही, पर अपने अस्तित्व की सार्थकता के बारे में सोचे, क्या पता उनमे से ही कोई पल हमारी आंखे खोल दे और हम वास्तविक जीवन पथ को पहचान ले।

----- अशोक मादरेचा

नियति (Destiny)

पल पल में बहुत कुछ घटित होता
कुछ मन का, कुछ अनचाहे होता
कुछ बदल देता, कुछ बदल जाता
कभी अच्छा, कभी बुरा लग जाता ।

स्वीकृति मन से करो या कहो मज़बूरी
यहाँ हर इच्छा किसकी होती पूरी
मालुम है काम सबके है बड़े जरुरी
पूरी करते जाओ, इच्छाएं रहती अधूरी ।

घूमते नक्षत्र और सितारें भी निरंतर
घूमते परिंदे और इंसान भी इधर उधर
आता नहीं कही पर कुछ भी अंतर
थका जाता मनुज, बहुत कुछ कर कर ।

जान लो कि नियति क्या कहती है
कभी सोचा ? ये जमीं कितना सहती है
रुकना स्वभाव नहीं, नदियाँ तो बहती है
कुछ भी खाली होता, वहाँ हवाएँ तो रहती है ।

काल को कौन परिभाषित कर पाया
कुछ लिखा वो भी लगता है माया
समय से बंधा हुआ यौवन और काया
ना लोग रहे ना उनका कोई साया ।

सब्र करो आज भी आँखों में आंसू आते है
पीड़ा भी होती, वो उम्मीद भी जगाते है
कुछ लोग है जो खूब रंग जमाते है
नियति भी बदल दे ऐसा खेल रचाते है ।

Mistakes Every One Should Know And Avoid

Life, you can say, is time spent on this earth but the time itself is so precious that one should always know about some common mistakes and avoid these as early as possible to control the unrecoverable damage and repent later. Understanding these mistakes will certainly compel you to think about self-transformation. let us see what are these mistakes.

Not act when sun is shining : When we are younger we must stay vigilant about our health and career both. Parents must think in advance how their children would make them fit and suitable to take on the challenges of life. One can not afford to ignore health and career both.

Run after things which is not worth: 95 % of average people are after so many things or such persons in their life which are not worth to them, at all. They even don't know why the seek them. I have seen such people, if you ask them , they bluntly say what is the need to know, this is the height.

Run when time is out: very very big and common mistake. Anything you start or put your efforts just assure yourself and ask is it right time to do? if confused consult your mentors or experienced people in the field. Having billions of dollars at the age of 85 and at 35 makes a lot of difference. At the age of 85, I feel the money is notional, it may not bring you the joy what you feel at the age of 35. We have to draw a clear line and follow it with utmost clarity.

Always trying to keep others happy: I recommend every one of you to honestly assess yourself if you are not a monk or sannyasi. You will wonder what kind of life we are living. Most probably you would laugh at yourself and that too loudly. I hope you are getting me. Everything you do is for happiness for others most of the time. You work for siblings, society, organization, and so on. In this whole process you simply forget yourself and the true happiness becomes a distinct reality.

  

Never think about priority: Confusion about what to do at what stage creates lots of uncertainty which leads to indecisiveness. We should know about our realistic priorities and not the one which is just a created priority. Imagine a person putting his entire energy after supporting an election campaign while his parents are not well and he is not attending them. On several occasion we feel sad about our investment of time on wrong priorities. A person is deeply engaged in social matters while his children were lacking guidance about their future. These are some instances.

Ignorant and casual approach in abundance: Everything we do, we have to be focused to achieve. Without concluding tasks we can not move ahead. Our approach has to be definite. People don't take seriously to people having casual approach.

Influenced by matters or persons which are totally irrelevant : If we get influenced quite often by different groups, persons, situations and change our goals frequently, success too gets postponed. Life is full of different events, occasions, situations, groups, people, environments and atmospheres. All the time we cannot allow these to pull back. We should be vigilant about our deeds and performance to achieve what we really aspire for.

The mistakes discussed above makes major impact on most of our life and sometimes we don't even notice this. To achieve proper balance in life, we must avoid these.        

 

Small experiments for big changes

Small experiments can make big changes in our life. Here is the list of some experiments one should experience and strike right balance in life.

1. Celebrate no complaints day : For our own sake we can fix at least a day in a week which is completely free from complaints. We can increase our acceptance level to adjust all situations on a particular day to make a nice start. Amazing changes happen, just follow and feel.
 
2. forgive your worst enemy: If you have no enemy than far better but if you have than try forgiving him or her from bottom of your heart. I agree this is not small thing but assume it small and let it happen.This will make you stress free to a great extent.

3. Network is net worth, realize it in time: Right kind of networking at right age make your life tremendous success. We can not do all things on our own. We can not get everything done by paying some money. Human life can not avoid being social.Those who remain aloof must reconsider and open the doors of happiness by establishing and maintaining proper networking. One can start this with contacting at least a friend per day. Make your presence wherever you feel its worth. These small gestures can unleash your potential eventually.

4. Help someone for nothing in return: It is not necessary that we expect something in return all the time. Helping someone for no reason can really make you feel happy. Small favors to someone who is stuck up, may make our life graceful and blessed too.
  
5. Ask your elders if any support they need from you: elders generally do not ask for help or support unless they feel very comfortable with someone. Take this as an opportunity and lend a helping hand without waiting for their request. It is equally true within family or outside family.

6. Spare few minutes for you alone: Talk at least once to yourself daily. Those who don't talk to themselves remain empty for long and need outside support constantly. Our own soul is full of unlimited power but we have to search it by communication.
  
7. Plant a tree at least if you can: Ask the quantum of pleasure to a person who planted a tree and saw it grown up. It is very positive thing we can give to our earth.

8. Teach what you can but for free to someone who really need it: There are plenty of people who may need different kind of guidance. If one has skill and experience, he should share it so more and more people will benefit from it

These are some small things we can follow and make our life more balanced.

Life - Stuck up or Straying ?

Dealing with Feelings of Stagnation and Wandering

Most of us occasionally find ourselves feeling bored or experiencing a significant decline in enthusiasm for life. If this feeling persists, it’s important to take it seriously and assess whether you’re stuck or simply straying off course. Life presents us with many questions—some have straightforward answers, while others do not—and it’s often these unanswered questions that leave us feeling this way.

Life is full of ups and downs, but those who possess clarity and the ability to overcome indecisiveness can better manage their state of mind and navigate life’s uncertainties.

Symptoms of Feeling Stuck or Straying:

1. Aimless Wandering: Some people frequently go out without any specific purpose. This might also include taking unnecessary leaves from work without any real reason.

2. Irritability: Their behavior becomes more irritable, especially towards family members and close friends.

3. Procrastination: Even when there’s work to be done, they delay it. This procrastination is a common symptom, reducing their overall effectiveness.

4. Excessive Use of Social Media: They become addicted to social media, spending hours updating their status and chatting with people who aren’t significant in their lives.

5. Increased Consumption of Alcohol and Drugs: To escape their feelings of being stuck or lost, some may start drinking more or even resort to drugs.

6. Seeking Happiness in Strangers: Interestingly, such individuals may look for happiness in strangers rather than in their trusted friends or relatives.

7. Irregular Eating Habits: Their eating patterns become irregular, leading to a decline in their overall health.

8. Lack of Interest in Work: Even if their job is secure, they lose interest and start applying for other positions.

9. Sudden Aggression or Depression: Their reactions become unpredictable, with sudden outbursts of anger or bouts of depression.

10. Seeking Unnecessary Approval: They may lose confidence in themselves and start seeking approval from others for every little decision.

11. Blaming Themselves and Others Without Cause: They may start blaming themselves or others for no apparent reason, and this habit can become ingrained over time.

How to Overcome These Situations

If you notice these symptoms in a friend or relative, it’s important to take steps to help them. While there’s no one-size-fits-all solution, here are some strategies that might help:

1. Be Practical: Practicality is key. Whether it’s work, goals, or other aspects of life, everything should be achievable and realistic. Often, things don’t work out because they aren’t practical, which leads to feelings of being stuck.

2. Avoid Negative People: If someone is already struggling with indecisiveness, being around negative people will only make things worse. It’s better to avoid such influences.

3. Consult a Trusted Mentor: If you have a mentor you trust, seek their advice. Share your feelings and symptoms with them.

4. Engage in Creative Activities: When all other avenues seem closed, turn inward. Creative activities like gardening, painting, writing, or reading poetry can be very therapeutic.

5. Refresh Your Goals: If your current goals seem out of reach, reassess and create a new list of goals that you truly want to pursue.

6. Evaluate Your Direction: If you’re feeling stuck, make sure your efforts are aligned with the right direction. Reassess your path and start anew if necessary.

7. Start Small: Begin with small, manageable steps. Expecting major results immediately is unrealistic.

8. Know Your Limits: Understand the resources available to you and set your limits accordingly. Knowing your boundaries can prevent feelings of being stuck.

9. Read Inspirational Books or Watch Motivational Movies: Inspirational content can be incredibly uplifting. Seek out books or movies that provoke thought and offer motivation.

10. Change Your Environment: Spending time in a serene, natural environment with close friends or family can rejuvenate your spirit and bring new energy to your routine.

11. Keep Your Hopes Alive: Above all, maintain hope. Remember, nothing is permanent—neither the good nor the bad. Challenges are opportunities for growth, and something new and better may be on the horizon.

It’s important to understand that feeling stuck and feeling like you’re straying are different experiences, though they can happen simultaneously. The key is to recognize your current situation and take steps to overcome it. By following the suggestions above, you can gain clarity and regain control of your life. If the issue involves another person, consider the situation from their perspective as well. What seems right for you may not be the same for them. Stay positive, and work towards making your life more balanced, lively, and vibrant. 

Ashok Madrecha

How To Stay Happy

When somebody asked me "How to stay happy" I took risk to reply such question which is generally asked to some Saint or spiritual leader, I explained it as under:

Whole human life is chasing something , getting something, having something or maintaining something. The person was not satisfied and he insisted to explain it further and I had to elaborate my reply and the question and concept implied in it both were manifest.

In this world we are mostly busy in four type of activities:

1. To make or get money and wealth,
2. To have name, fame and be influential.
3. To love and get loved
4. To keep up all the above three in favor on sustained basis.

We can notice well that almost everybody is busy with the above four kind of activities. Level of busyness might be the different person to person depending upon his or her priorities. Now coming on the question "How to be Happy", the point here is that if we are in these four activities only than our happiness would be limited to our needs. In other words, if my need of wealth is acute than it would give happiness to the extent the money and wealth I can consume, the moment the need gets satisfied, happiness will start finding new definition in another activities and it will shift its focus to other activities and this shifting becomes a habit. In this process the real happiness is never finding its value and due importance too. So what to do ? simple answer is that if we can spare part of our time for any such activity which does not fall in these four activities than happiness starts coming in.

To make it simple, such as if someone draws a picture , sing a song, plays piano, walks in a garden, looks at beautiful stars in night, observes sunrise, listen music, meditates, prays, forgives, studies positive thoughts, involves in good sports, supporting others and so on. All these should not have any motive which if eventually leads to the four activities than happiness would be artificial and not the real. In simple words if we start involving in any such activities which is not categorized as part of the four mentioned above than most probably there would be happiness and balance in life too. Those who practices it well, would know it better.